I made a lot of bad decisions whenever I got married, like spending money I didn't have. I got in a lot of debt, and the Lord had to teach me a lot about money before He'd allow me out of that debt. With the help of my father-in-law, David Mitchell, I learned that God expects us to use money in four ways.
1. To Provide For Our Families
The first thing that David taught me is that money is supposed to be used to provide for your family. I kind of already knew that, I didn't realize how serious it was though. 1 Timothy 5:8 says that if you do not provide for your family, you have denied the faith and you're worse than an infidel! Now, there's no other sin in the Bible that makes you worse than an infidel. If you don't provide for your family, it's a pretty serious sin! I knew that God took it seriously, I just didn't realize how seriously! The path I was on would not allow me to provide for my family, so I had to make some major changes, which is where use number 2 comes into play…
2. To Make More Money
The next use for your money is to make more money! A lot of people think, "Well, no. I'm supposed to give my money away to the church and stuff." You are supposed to do that, but not yet. The Bible tells us that we're supposed to tithe off of our increase. That means that you're supposed to take the money, use it to increase it, and then tithe off the profits of it.
In Proverbs 11:24, it says, "There is that scattereth, and yet increaseth; and there is that withholdeth more than is meet, but it tendeth to poverty.”
That's a mouthful. Let me just translate that for you. Basically, if you use your money to make money, it tends to increase. But, if you withhold or hoard it (you put it in a bank account and you don't ever use it) then it tends to make you poor. If you think about it, the more your money just sits in a bank account and does nothing, it is eating itself away just because of inflation. It's very biblical that that would happen.
3. To Help Others
NOW it’s time to help others with your money. Use your money for tithing, giving to your favorite ministries, helping friends and family out. We learn in Acts 20:35 that Jesus taught it is more blessed to give than to receive. God wants us to strive to be in a position where not only do we provide for our own, but we also help others.
4. To Have Fun!
The fourth use ended up being a life-changer for me! When Katie and I were in debt, we were under a lot of stress and we argued about money every now and then. You may have gone through this before and can relate. When I asked my father-in-law what I should do, he said, “Go have some fun!” I thought that was strange. I explained, “I don't have money to use for fun! I'm in debt!" What he said next shocked me. He said, "Yeah. . . you gotta use it anyway. Show that girl that you care more about having fun with her than you care about money!" I did, and it changed my life! Now, I make sure to always use my money for fun as well.
It's important to use money in all four of these ways, so that it stays in its proper place in your life and in your marriage! Don't leave any one of them out because all four of them can drastically change your life, like it did mine.
If you want to learn more about these uses of money, and how you might be able to use your money to make more money, check out my father-in-law, David Mitchell’s podcast. He talks all about using money in a Biblical way. Click here to listen now!